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Nayyera Anbreen's avatar

Quite true. Sometimes I think we women are like a blotting paper which absorbs ink but in our loving hearts absorb grief and become full of sympathy.

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Fariha Shah's avatar

Yes, it’s a blessing to be women but in return our own mental state is equally at stake.

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Ali rizvi's avatar

Thats very nice..Dr fariha, A professional with true understanding of humans anatomy and understanding of human psychological needs is what make you separated and unique in your skills and profession, that is one bit of your successful physical therapy in Pakistan and internationaly. I had personal experience with you regarding my uncle who was suffering from body pain and some emotional trauma which we didn't know till we met you in 2021 in your hospital. You addressed his physical as well as emotional nuances and he recovered in two sessions although he was struggling from more than two years. Glad you also have Great writing skills with huge dedication,knowledge and experience for your profession and now you pinning your experience with masses.

Hatts off to you and Stay blessed Dr sahiba

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Fariha Shah's avatar

Thank you so much. I am truly grateful for your kind words. I am only doing what each of us professionals should be doing. Being empathetic towards patient and caregivers’ mental state post chronic and lifechanging illnesses is crucial in the quality of care. All my patients deserve that on priority.

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Dr Haseeb Khan's avatar

Your writing is always excellent, Dr. Fariha. Empathy is indeed essential when breaking bad news, as it helps ease the emotional burden on patients and their families while building trust and understanding. I fully agree that healthcare providers should be honest about the prognosis and the limitations of available treatments. Sadly, some doctors give patients false hope—either for financial gain or due to inadequate training.

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Fariha Shah's avatar

Thank you so much for your kind appreciation. Exactly Dr. Haseeb, it’s unfortunate that more often that we would like to see, patients are given unrealistic expectations in terms of their disease progression or recovery prospect. It leads to problems at both levels.

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Ahmad Shuja Khan's avatar

With all honesty, the patients with irrepairable neurological and muscular disorders and their relatives, somehow, know the outcome in their hearts, but they always look at your face to hear an optimistic word from you. It is never easy to give a bad news about the prognosis of the disease. Selection of words is always difficult when you on one hand want to admit that recovery is going to be difficult and on the other hand you do not want to shatter their hopes. The way you handled this situation is certainly a feather in your cap. Hats off for you Dr. Fariha

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Fariha Shah's avatar

Thank you so much Dr. Shuja for putting it into words so perfectly. Yes, they already have a sense of what’s coming, but they still wait for us to give them something to hold on to. And that’s the hardest part, telling the truth without taking away hope 😔

Your comment means a lot. It reminds me why we have to stay gentle even when the news isn’t. Grateful for your forever present encouragement 🙏🏼

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Nawab zahid's avatar

🥰🥰😍I loved it

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Dr. Ubaida Nighat's avatar

Very well written the humane thoughts

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Fariha Shah's avatar

Thank you so much Dr. Ubaida

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Silvi Zahra's avatar

So true and beautifully written, as always.

And may be a gentle reminder of never underestimate the power of kind words. They don’t just comfort others. they also reflect who we are as people. Like you so rightly pointed out, it’s not always easy to offer someone a glimpse of their future, especially when it may not look very promising. But what is in our control is the amount of humanness and compassion we bring into that moment.

Sometimes, just the way we speak with gentleness and care can be its own kind of healing. And that matters more than we realize🤍

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